Returning to At Home Inseminations

The month of June was quite the whirlwind with trips, photography, and some big decisions on the baby making front. I know I mentioned in the last update blog post that we were thinking about talking with our donor about changing our insemination attempts to at home versus attempting IUI's at the doctor's office. Our last ovulation window happened to occur over a Saturday-Sunday and since our OB/GYN is not open on the weekends we thought this was a good time to talk with our Donor and his wife about the at home inseminations. I'm happy to say that after talking with them, and adding a few additions to our legal contract we decided to move forward with at home inseminations with fresh sperm.  Probably the most important clause that we added on was one that discussed future guardians and read:

In the case that the Recipient and Second Parent are incapacitated, the families of the Recipient and Second Parent and any guardians of the child or children born from the artificial insemination procedure must relinquish any and all rights that they might otherwise have to hold Donor legally and financially responsible for any child or children who result from the artificial insemination procedure. All parties agree that the Donor is volunteering his time and service to help the Recipient and Second Parent in their desire to have a child or children and can never be held financially responsible for any child or children born from the artificial insemination procedure. If the Recipient or Second Parent, their families, their agents, and/or the guardians of any child or children born from the artificial insemination procedure bring legal action against the Donor, all of the Donor’s legal fees will be paid for by the plaintiff. 

We were glad that our donor brought this up and that we could add it in. Although he has total trust and confidence in us and vice versa, we hadn't thought too much about what would happen if we were no longer in the picture.

We were able to put together an Amendment to the contract and have it notorized by a wonderful friend as well as inseminate all in the same day! We all met at a coffee shop to get the Amendment notorized and then after our friend left we discussed how we should do the donation process. Should we just give them our key to go to our house without us? What about the dogs? How long might it take? Where should we go?

We decided that they would follow us to our house and we would let them in and then we would take the dogs on a walk and he could text us when he was done. It was again another funny/awkward situation, which we're really getting used to by now! So again, we inseminated and waited the  14 days, and like clock work Jennie started her period.  No Baby Crate this month. Honestly, this month was a lot easier for me. I kept telling myself out of the gates that it wasn't going to work--I was trying some reverse psychology on myself. I figured if it didn't work I wouldn't be surprised and if it did then it would be a great surprise.  

After this latest failed attempt we started revisiting the idea of foster care.  I'll leave that story for the next post, but I'm excited to say we have some good news coming soon!